Why We Cheat With Ugly People

Have you or someone you know ever been cheated on and then you see the cheatee' and think what the hell? I know it's happened to me, my best friend, people who have been married before—and you can't help but wonder—why did they down-grenade?

When it first happened to my best friend no one could process how you could leave a knock-out for someone who looked like they'd been knocked out.

I caught my ex-failance' cheating on craigslist one time. No lie. I was on his e-mail account to access some hotel reservations for an upcoming vacation and found messages from girls he had contacted on craigslist looking for dates, sex, lord knows what. Do you know what people look like on craigslist? No! Because most of them he was contacting were probably men—but that's just proves....it's not looks that make people cheat—it's unhappiness, and not unhappiness with the relationship, but unhappiness with themselves.

When people cheat, we always ask the wrong question. We ask, "Well how could they do that to them with that?!?"

When really the question should be, "Why did they do something so dumb to themselves?"

Simply put...they're unhappy with some part of themselves and they feel like the thrill and secretiveness of cheating will fill that unhappiness. We all want to be happy and when we aren't anymore, some of us are too afraid to admit it, so we'll sneak around with anyone we can to find that happiness, even if we don't realize it's just going to be temporary and what's coming will be hell to pay.

So if you ever find yourself in this crap situation, don't ask yourself, "How could they do this to me?" yet ask yourself, "Why was I dating someone who was so unhappy they could do this to themselves?"